As you may expect, dating is a little bit different in China than it is in most Western countries.
The basics are the same—people are people everywhere—but there are still a few differences regarding culture and social cues to note.
After the mothers have been spoken to the young man is told he is allowed to come to the lodge.
Usually he waits until everyone is sleeping and he makes a light and finds the girl he wants.
For example, although many men get married without a house and a car, Chinese women will often say that they’re looking for these things because that’s the sort of person who probably has a stable career and will be able to provide for her and their future children in the long-term. As one contestant on China’s most popular dating show put it, "I’d rather cry in a BMW than laugh on a bicycle." Every parent is different, of course, but in general Chinese parents expect to be more involved in their children’s relationships.
Because of China’s rigorous college entrance examination, dating is rarely tolerated among high school students. That doesn’t mean that Chinese teens don’t have high school crushes or even relationships (mostly secret ones).
But in general, Chinese students leave high school with a lot less romantic experience than their American counterparts.
Once upon a time, callow young men almost always met their dates' dads.
This ritual vetting was an important part of protecting the human species from random romantic mistakes.